Well, more fun stuff. Read this article from Salon.com about older, female virgins. My own opinion is that a man will use a woman's virginity as an excuse to ditch her if he isn't all that into her to begin -- women will do the same thing too. Basically, some people think if someone else hasn't been there earlier, well, there must be something wrong. This, of course, is as fallacious as thinking, "once a slut, always a slut."

It's times like this that Phillipians 4:12 rings even more true.

I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.

Work to improve your situation when you can -- when it can't be improved, then try and enjoy it.

Right now I'm listening to XM Radio's Special X. Apparently it's not on their satellite lineup, but is available to DirecTV listeners and people who buy XM's online lineup. My wife's been asking to get it, although I'm not 100% sure where we'd listen to it -- we get it at home along with our DirecTV but I'm not sure where we'd get $12.95 a month from listening to it.

I've listened to the French version of Lorne Greene's song Ringo and Leonard Nimoy's hit Bilbo Baggins. Fun stuff.

Spam count
Category 8-Sep Total
Free stuff 21 509
Male performance 11 376
Cheap stuff 12 370
Loans 25 739
Self-improvement 10 151
Porn 70 1342
Meet women 2 69
Stock tips 28 441
electronic scams 0 24
offline scams 1 54
Casinos 3 52
Political 1 6
Blank 9 79

Spanish 7 136
Japanese 5 29
Chinese 64 1197
Undetermined Asian 4 21
Portuguese 0 4
French 0 1
Italian 2 40
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 193 4212

Another quick spam update. One of these days I am going to make this a real blog. But for now ... this is it.

Category 6-Sep Total
Free stuff 53 488
Male performance 40 365
Cheap stuff 29 358
Loans 97 714
Self-improvement 16 141
Porn 172 1272
Meet women 4 67
Stock tips 46 413
electronic scams 2 24
offline scams 3 53
Casinos 9 49
Political 0 5
Blank 5 70

Spanish 15 129
Japanese 1 24
Chinese 158 1133
Undetermined Asian 0 17
Portuguese 0 4
French 0 1
Italian 3 38
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 476 4019

Category 31-Aug Total
Free stuff 24 435
Male performance 29 325
Cheap stuff 18 329
Loans 55 617
Self-improvement 17 125
Porn 113 1100
Meet women 4 63
Stock tips 21 367
electronic scams 2 22
offline scams 5 50
Casinos 3 40
Political 1 5
Blank 10 65

Spanish 9 114
Japanese 0 23
Chinese 109 975
Undetermined Asian 1 17
Portuguese 0 4
French 0 1
Italian 4 35
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 302 3543

Another spam count

Category 28-Aug Total
Free stuff 36 411
Male performance 26 296
Cheap stuff 12 311
Loans 53 562
Self-improvement 6 108
Porn 79 987
Meet women 7 59
Stock tips 18 346
electronic scams 1 20
offline scams 4 45
Casinos 2 37
Political 0 4
Blank 4 55

Spanish 6 105
Japanese 4 23
Chinese 68 866
Undetermined Asian 0 16
Portuguese 0 4
French 0 1
Italian 4 31
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 248 3241

quick spam update for today

Category 25-Aug Total
Free stuff 10 375
Male performance 2 270
Cheap stuff 10 299
Loans 7 509
Self-improvement 2 102
Porn 25 908
Meet women 1 52
Stock tips 2 328
electronic scams 1 19
offline scams 2 41
Casinos 1 35
Political 0 4
Blank 0 51

Spanish 2 99
Japanese 0 19
Chinese 20 798
Undetermined Asian 0 16
Portuguese 0 4
French 0 1
Italian 1 27
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 63 2993

Category 24-Aug Total
Free stuff 15 365
Male performance 9 268
Cheap stuff 9 289
Loans 5 502
Self-improvement 4 100
Porn 34 883
Meet women 2 51
Stock tips 14 326
electronic scams 0 18
offline scams 0 39
Casinos 1 34
Political 0 4
Blank 2 51

Spanish 3 97
Japanese 2 19
Chinese 32 778
Undetermined Asian 0 16
Portuguese 1 4
French 0 1
Italian 0 26
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 95 2930

Myspace finally worked the way I wanted it to. I heard from a gal who was a year ahead of me at Warren County -- I need to write her back.

But more importantly, I need to edit the myspace page to reflect my wife and me being a couple. I suppose I could also put a picture of my wife and me up there?

Category 23-Aug Total
Free stuff 8 350
Male performance 9 259
Cheap stuff 6 280
Loans 9 497
Self-improvement 4 96
Porn 27 849
Meet women 1 49
Stock tips 8 312
electronic scams 0 18
offline scams 2 39
Casinos 1 33
Political 0 4
Blank 2 49

Spanish 4 94
Japanese 0 17
Chinese 21 746
Undetermined Asian 0 16
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 4 26
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 77 2835

Quick spam update.

Category 22-Aug Total
Free stuff 17 342
Male performance 11 250
Cheap stuff 4 274
Loans 12 488
Self-improvement 4 92
Porn 40 822
Meet women 1 48
Stock tips 8 304
electronic scams 2 18
offline scams 1 37
Casinos 1 32
Political 0 4
Blank 3 47

Spanish 0 90
Japanese 0 17
Chinese 37 725
Undetermined Asian 0 16
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 2 22
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 104 2758

Well, sorry for the lack of updates of late.

Today was spent on work and editing VHSL questions. I'll be doing the latter for much of the week, and then it's a return to writing questions. It'll be busy, but I've got four fairly easy (for me categories) and I might be able to have 24 matches' worth by Labor Day. We'll see.

Saturday, Becca and I went to the Clarke County Fair. It was okay, I suspect we'd have had more fun if we had been feeling better. Sunday, we went to church and then I went over the math questions with Adam and finished the geography questions.

Here's the spam count since Friday morning. I am impressed. The other categories are actually making a comeback vis-a-vis porn.

Category 21-Aug Total
Free stuff 35 325
Male performance 48 239
Cheap stuff 27 270
Loans 77 476
Self-improvement 9 88
Porn 142 782
Meet women 4 47
Stock tips 23 296
electronic scams 1 16
offline scams 6 36
Casinos 5 31
Political 0 4
Blank 3 44

Spanish 7 90
Japanese 3 17
Chinese 129 688
Undetermined Asian 0 16
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 4 20
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 380 2654

Just another quick spam count. The Chinese porn spammers sure are persistent.

Category 17-Aug Total
Free stuff 9 290
Male performance 5 191
Cheap stuff 7 243
Loans 6 399
Self-improvement 4 79
Porn 42 640
Meet women 0 43
Stock tips 7 273
electronic scams 0 15
offline scams 1 30
Casinos 0 26
Political 0 4
Blank 1 41

Spanish 2 83
Japanese 0 14
Chinese 42 559
Undetermined Asian 0 16
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 0 16
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 82 2274

Quick spam update

Free stuff 2 281
Male performance 3 186
Cheap stuff 2 236
Loans 7 393
Self-improvement 3 75
Porn 6 598
Meet women 0 43
Stock tips 3 266
electronic scams 0 15
offline scams 0 29
Casinos 0 26
Political 0 4
Blank 0 40

Spanish 1 81
Japanese 0 14
Chinese 5 517
Undetermined Asian 0 16
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 0 16
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 26 2192

Quick spam count

Category 16-Aug Total
Free stuff 0 279
Male performance 1 183
Cheap stuff 2 234
Loans 1 386
Self-improvement 1 72
Porn 30 592
Meet women 1 43
Stock tips 1 263
electronic scams 0 15
offline scams 0 29
Casinos 0 26
Political 0 4
Blank 0 40

Spanish 0 80
Japanese 0 14
Chinese 30 512
Undetermined Asian 0 16
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 0 16
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 37 2166

Well, another day is through. I wrote some questions and did some work. Not as much Farking today. My wife went to her Lions Club meeting and had a minor crisis when the toilet didn't flush. Turns out there was a used tampon clogging things up, but the snake managed to get hold of it and pull it out. Hopefully, no more toilet clogging.

My MySpace adventure continues. I got two webcam girls (one from Arlington), one Hoodia saleslady and one random woman from Texas. I have no idea how she got my screen name, so I asked her. I may end up taking the darn page down, since I'm not sure what road I'll be going down. Well, here's hoping people from Warren County and Randolph-Macon actually get in touch with me.

Today's Spam:

Free stuff 10 279
Male performance 8 182
Cheap stuff 7 232
Loans 7 385
Self-improvement 1 71
Porn 54 562
Meet women 1 42
Stock tips 3 262
electronic scams 0 15
offline scams 1 29
Casinos 0 26
Political 0 4
Blank 2 40

Spanish 2 80
Japanese 0 14
Chinese 49 482
Undetermined Asian 0 16
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 3 16
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 94 2129

Well, today I played in a thread on Fark, wrote some geography VHSL questions and did some work. Tomorrow I look forward to much of the same.

Here's my quotes from the thread:

"Hopefully every person with a significant other reading this thread will take an extra 30 seconds to hug that person and tell them just how much they mean to you. "

then

to user Captain Fashion: Well, it depends. Do you WANT a significant other? I read a lot of single Farkers who seem to have a neverending parade of pornstars, strippers, alcohol, threesomes, etc., and seem quite happy doing this. (Witness the guy who said, "cheat away you married losers.")

then

Let me see if I can translate Crazy Lee.

Going on a quarter century with smooch pet and we are still a couple of flirt birds. We don't take to the wing as often these days but we preen each other with the same affection as ever.

My wife and I may not have sex as much as we once did but remain affectionate with each other after 25 years.

Regardless of age and hormones I think it's pretty much simpatico and imagination taking advantage of the biology that keeps ya singin', not the other way `round.

Imagination and kindness will go a long way towards keeping natural biological urges active.

A good tactic to use if you're a male trying out this strategy is to murderize da kittens before picking up Miss Hot&Bothered for the first three or four dates (if you've some notion of considering long term parking in that fire). Introducing some cognitive lag time might well lead to the revelation that the train your willy is wheedling you to ride into the distance, on tracks torrid and terminal to your singularity, is actually going to be a trip into the `oven' of Miss Not and bothersome (she'll be hauling your ashes, for sure).

If you are going on a date with a girl, and think this may lead to a relationship, then masturbate before going on the date. In this way, you will not let your smaller head do the thinking or allow the woman to use the prospect of sex to lead you around.

I've gotta agree with those who prefer flowing tresses (the tighter the curl the colder the girl). There's something heroically feminine and alluring (widely shared male cultural prejudice), a `maiden on a mission' effect that pretty much defies age (`some unknown but still sexy thing puts forth the moulding of it's features from behind the mask of seasons').

I like long, flowing hair. I believe a woman who looks good in this can look good for decades.

/all you pudknockers who can make it this far and still get a bit tantric while playing scrabble (win-win when you both lose it) - you'll be happier than you've any right to be.

If you have made it this far and can learn how to make the smallest of experiences, such as playing Scrabble, somehow seuxal, then you will be very happy in your life.

then I posted

Lots of good marital advice here.

to user Captain Fashion
The thing is, you have to avoid falling into some sort of bitterness loop that would turn off someone desirable when you do meet her. At the same time, you can't plan your life around meeting someone who may or may not show up.

to user PinkoLeftist
Divorce Court these days is a lottery. For every story of a woman that made out like a bandit, there is likely a story of a guy making $100k a year that has to pay $50 a month in child support or some similar nonsense.

to user Crazy Lee
Actually I agree with you pretty much entirely. I also hope to be making random allusions as much as you are in 20 or so years.

to user Tree Hugger
Were there any signals early on in the marriage/relationship that made it clear she had some serious problems with sex?

re Stacked Librarian's case
Any friend who dislikes the significant other will, unfortunately, have to take a backburner role. My wife comes before ANY of my friends, and I come before ANY of her friends. Therefore, I have ditched friends who were rude to her, and she has ditched friends who were rude to me.

re the Daniwould v. Quackedtheduck thread
We cannot really control our spouse. We can, however, control our own actions.

re porn
I'm told to avoid Gilligan's Biland. Apparently there's a lot more male/male action than female/male or female/female action.

then

to user I_Make_Jebus_Cry
If someone else is in the right and my wife is in the wrong, then it is my job to mention this to her at a later point. But I shouldn't backstab my wife with people looking on. On the flip side, my wife has distanced herself from some of her more man-hating friends.

to user daniwould
sob ... I've been on FARK for five years and I've never made anyone's profile that I know of. Thanks.

I added myself to MySpace. We'll see who from my past contacts me. I had put some effort into putting down my interests, etc., but then I hit another part of my profile editing and lost it. Oh well, next time.

http://www.myspace.com/shawn_pickrell

Visit me and give me props. Or something.

Spam for today:

Free stuff 8 269
Male performance 7 174
Cheap stuff 15 225
Loans 15 378
Self-improvement 3 70
Porn 69 508
Meet women 0 41
Stock tips 11 259
electronic scams 2 15
offline scams 3 28
Casinos 0 26
Political 0 4
Blank 1 38

Spanish 1 78
Japanese 1 14
Chinese 56 433
Undetermined Asian 1 16
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 1 13
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 134 2035

Well, Becca and I just got back from church. Becca is reading right now and I am sitting around waiting for my digestive system to percolate. Then I'll go to the grocery store. I might ask her to wash the bed, it is getting fairly bad. But then again, she doesn't seem to mind it so much.

Yesterday, Becca and I went to P.F. Chang's (it was Chinese food, mind you, good Chinese food, but just Chinese food) and I dropped off for recycling her cousin Karen's computer that has been occupying space in our house for the past three years. Then I went over to the Nortons (our new minister and his wife) and found they didn't need any help in moving in. In fact, Kurt was off ministering to a young man at our church that was just diagnosed with liver cancer. I got the names of everyone in the family (it's one of the Spanish-speaking families, and I'm not 100% up to speed on everyone in all in the families) so I am going to send a card to them tomorrow (the directory and the cards are up there.)

I also got the impression Nancy would rather have just kicked up her feet for that afternoon -- so I went back home. So her friend Sarah came over. I played on the internet and talked to them -- they tried to watch Memoirs of a Geisha but disliked it so much they stopped watching it after about 45 minutes.

Kurt's first sermon was on the necessity to give a warm greeting to all who are in the house of God. I couldn't agree with it more, really. One of these days I might consider reading more about the "mystery worshippers" who'll show up at a church and then write the church about their experience. We must be careful, not only because the person we ignore or otherwise mistreat could embarrass us in the fulness of time, but because it is the right thing to do.

God commands us to love much more than he commands us to follow certain lists of rules.

The Bible study class was on Revelation 19 -- where the Whore of Babylon is overthrown by an army led by Jesus Christ and the Beast and the false prophet are thrown into the lake of fire. It is a very violent chapter, some churches (of all groups that profess Christianity) ignore it, while others seem to be doing their best to bring on the end times. I am of the opinion that these events will happen in some form, and that through a faith in Christ that manifests itself in the fruits of the Spirit (goodness, love, kindness, generosity, etc.), one can avoid the terrible punishments mentioned here. At the same time, though, those who seek to hasten these events are displaying a terrible hubris. Christ's return will be at a time of HIS choosing, not our own. We cannot ignore the plight of Palestinian and Lebanese Christians to cheer on Israelis, because we think God might return -- do the ends always justify the means?

Well, enough of that. I've got some spams to count and here is the cut and paste job from the Excel spreadsheet.

Best wishes to all.

Free stuff 13 261
Male performance 10 167
Cheap stuff 4 210
Loans 9 363
Self-improvement 2 67
Porn 13 439
Meet women 2 41
Stock tips 8 248
electronic scams 0 13
offline scams 0 25
Casinos 0 26
Political 0 4
Blank 3 37

Spanish 2 77
Japanese 1 13
Chinese 10 377
Undetermined Asian 0 15
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 0 12
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 64 1901

Another spam count

Free stuff 6 248
Male performance 8 157
Cheap stuff 4 206
Loans 12 354
Self-improvement 0 65
Porn 18 426
Meet women 2 39
Stock tips 1 240
electronic scams 0 13
offline scams 2 25
Casinos 0 26
Political 0 4
Blank 0 34

Spanish 2 75
Japanese 0 12
Chinese 17 367
Undetermined Asian 0 15
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 1 12
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 53 1837

Quick spam count

Total 139 1784

Porn 57 408
Loans 30 342
Free stuff 15 242
Stock tips 13 239
Cheap stuff 4 202
Male performance 6 149
Self-improvement 5 65
Meet women 1 37
Blank 5 34
Casinos 0 26
offline scams 2 23
electronic scams 0 13
Political 1 4

Chinese 56 350
Spanish 1 73
Undetermined Asian 0 15
Japanese 1 12
Italian 0 11
Portuguese 0 3
Turkish 0 2
French 0 1
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Well, another day at work. Apparently, we are going to be moving our backup operations to another server. This stuff will take place over the next 6-8 weeks. Hopefully I'll be able to start installing Solaris 10 on the server -- and then my bosses will get me a full membership on http://sunsolve.sun.com -- because right now, I can't get the patches for Solaris 10. But I suppose this will be solved in a panic when something goes wrong and they need the patches.

My wife's with her friend Sarah right now going to a Bible study group with McLean Bible Church. On the 25th (I think) we will be seeing a B-17 bomber that has stayed around since World War II. There's some question reading for VHSL Scholastic Bowl and some home repairs -- right now on the agenda is disposing of an old computer that's taking up space in the basement and getting the area outside the basement properly screened off so leaves won't blow into the stairwell there. Eventually -- the culmination is expanding our porch so we can include a hot tub. THAT will be a lot of fun. But ... one thing at a time, and I hope that we hear from Abby and John soon. It's a bit unusual for them to go two weeks without contacting us ...

Today's SPAM count. The Chinese porn just won't stop. In honor of that, I am ordering some ... Chinese food! Yay!

Free stuff 2 227
Male performance 4 143
Cheap stuff 8 198
Loans 14 312
Self-improvement 3 60
Porn 24 351
Meet women 0 36
Stock tips 14 226
electronic scams 0 13
offline scams 1 21
Casinos 0 26
Political 0 3
Blank 1 29

Spanish 4 72
Japanese 1 11
Chinese 22 294
Undetermined Asian 0 15
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 0 11
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 71 1645

Well -- Joe Lieberman and Cynthia McKinney look like they are both going down for defeat in today's primaries. Gas looks as if it will hit $3.50 a gallon after the Prudhoe Bay disaster. Iraq and Lebanon remain war zones.

Work went fairly well, nothing special really. I probably should've written more VHSL questions, but I will do so after posting tonight's post. The lights look as if they are going to stay on, which is a tad unfortunate.

Here's the spam count for today. The flood of Chinese porn I started getting on the 26th of July has put porn over the top as far as spam is concerned.

Category 8-Aug Total
Free stuff 9 225
Male performance 3 139
Cheap stuff 7 190
Loans 10 298
Self-improvement 3 57
Porn 39 327
Meet women 6 36
Stock tips 12 212
electronic scams 0 13
offline scams 1 20
Casinos 1 26
Political 0 3
Blank 2 28

Spanish 4 68
Japanese 2 10
Chinese 34 272
Undetermined Asian 0 15
Portuguese 0 3
French 0 1
Italian 1 11
Turkish 0 2
Gender-inappropriate 0 0

Total 93 1574

Well, Randy is now gone as our minister. Kurt and Nancy Norton show up on Thursday. I emailed the church secretary, since every one of the members will want to hang out with them. On the plus side, they will be getting free meals for the next couple months. :-)

One of my fellow small group members will be going to Little Rock with her new husband next month. Rebecca and I were suspecting it for a while, but it is now fully in the cards. Hopefully she can continue some sort of business opportunity. We shall see.

Four people have passed on at work in the past six weeks. That has to be some sort of actuarial weirdness. Hopefully the lights will be turned off when I show up at work tonight.

Two people had relatives pass on at church and one more has had her husband suffer a heart attack.

Wow. Lots to pray for today.

Spam count:
Total 187. Porn 66, Loans 28, Free stuff 27, Cheap stuff 15, Stock tips 14, Male performance 13, Casinos 7, Blank 5, Meet women 5, Self-improvement 3, offline scams 3, e-scams 1. Chinese 61, Spanish 2, Japanese 1.

Overall 1,435. Loans 280, Porn 274, Free stuff 207, Stock tips 195, Cheap stuff 181, Male performance 134, self-improvement 51, Meet women 29, Blank 26, Casinos 25, offline scams 18, e-scams 12, Political 3. Chinese 225, Spanish 63, Asian 15, Italian 10, Japanese 8, Portuguese 3, French 1, Turkish 1.